Are You Made For Each other?

The couple was walking on the sidewalk. They looked to be totally absorbed with each other. They were not speaking to each other, but a glance at them could tell that they were in deep love and were made for each other. What is this mystical quality of being made for each other? What qualities does this kind of relationship have? Are all the choices same? Or as we say in science, opposites attract. So the choices are totally different? Will a couple having different choices in every aspect love each other or fight over the choices? We can say that at least most of the choices should be very common. If I say that my partner and I are made for each other, what I must mean is this - he/she is the right person for me. There is no other person in the world other than him/her who can make a better couple with me. We are happiest being together and our happiness comes from our relationship.

Are choices the only factor that matter in our life? Is it enough if my eating habits, my dressing choices, my color preferences, my weather preferences and all my other likings are same as my partner, we are made for each other? Is that all to the relationship supposed to be made for each other? There must be something more? What can be that? Let us find out.

Love for each other, a deep longing for others body, heart and words and a feeling of deep satisfaction that is derived when the couple is together. The couple has only one desire- to share everything, every thought, and every emotion. The main goal in life - make and keep the partner happy and feel happy in his/her happiness. Whenever we look at a mother with her child, we never say that they are made for each other, but they share a bond that is very deep. If a couple can somehow share that kind of bond, it can be called 'made for each other.'

Are You Being Lied To?

Right now, one of the books I am reading is “Get Anyone to do Anything” by David J. Lieberman.

This book is filled with many techniques you can use in difficult situations to get other people to do what you need them to do.

His methods are based on many years of research into human behavior.  He has written a previous book on how to tell when people are lying to you.

I will just briefly present some of his ideas on how to tell whether or not another person is telling you the truth.  This is a problem we all face from time to time, so it is helpful to have a few tips.

If you think his advice is useful, you may wish to check out more about David J  Lieberman’s other books on human behavior.  They are fun and easy to read, and contain a lot of practical, useful information.

You might get the suspicion that the other person is not telling you the truth.  Sometimes we feel this suspicion because we are naturally suspicious and have a hard time trusting anybody.  But sometimes we are suspicious because we sense that something is wrong, and that the other person is lying to us.

How can we tell when someone is lying to us about such a matter?  Usually, when we try to ask questions of a person who has decided to lie to us, they will continue sticking to their story.

David Lieberman suggests that sometimes we can flush out a lie by introducing a made up “fact” related to the other person’s story.  Make the “fact” you introduce sound like a plausible story.  That means, it sounds as if it could have really happened, but it didn’t.  Then watch how the other person reacts.

For example, if the other person says “I was at the Royal Theater for the six o’clock movie”  you can say, “I heard on the news there was a big accident outside the Royal Theater just before six.”

If the person was really there, he will immediately tell you, “No, there wasn’t an accident” and will appear quite calm about it.

However, if they weren’t really there, they are likely to become flustered and confused, because they don’t know what to say next.  They might say something like “Oh, right, well, that certainly was a bad accident.”  If they seem to hesitate and act suspiciously, this will confirm to you that they weren’t really there, because they are trying to come up with another made up story.

I’m not a big fan of this technique because I don’t believe in trying to catch a liar by becoming a liar, but sometimes we feel desperate to know whether or not someone is lying to us about something important, and this kind of technique can at least let us know what kind of situation we are dealing with.

How to Tell is a Person is Trying to Bluff You

Bluffing is a word that means someone is pretending to be confident when they are in a difficult situation and they are trying to get away with something.  They want desperately to manipulate you into believing they are confident and have a lot of power and advantage when really they don’t.

They are hoping that if they pretend to be confident, you will be fooled and back away or give in.

For example, in a game of playing cards, especially when betting is involved, a person who has a terrible handful of cards will often bluff.  He will try to act very confident., as if he actually had very good cards in his hand.

By this show of confidence, he tries to intimidate the other card players into backing down so he can win.  So, he will try to look confident and happy as he looks around the table.

And often, this technique will work, because the other players will believe, “If he is acting so confident, he must have good cards.  I should just give up now, before I lose too much.”

But as David Lieberman points out, if a person truly had a handful of very good cards, he would not be trying to act confident.  Why?  Because he has no real need to try to make the other players back down.

A person who truly has a good hand of cards would probably try to act quite neutral so others couldn’t guess that he was happy.  Or he might even decide to pretend he is worried and anxious to cover up the fact that his cards are actually very good.

A player only needs to put on a show of confidence when his hand is quite poor.

So very often, a show of confidence is actually a sign that a person is bluffing.  Because a person who truly has a powerful advantage doesn’t need to try to act confident.

All people who are bluffing have one thing in common – they want you to think that they have some powerful advantage so they try to convey this by acting confident.

Very often, they try too hard.  Remember, that when a person is truly confident of their position or their power, they don’t need to try too hard to convince you they are confident.

Are You Being Disrespected By Your Mate?

There is a trap that many of us fall into because for the most part girls are socialized to be sweet, accommodating, passive, well-mannered etc. When we grow up and get into relationships, many of us don't really know what to do in response to disrespect.

     It's a little like we're frozen. Shocked. Disappointed. Now What? Well, there is a % of women who will not put up with any form of disrespect in their relationships. One incident and they bail. Probably a good idea.

     But then there is the rest of us - who either get temporarily outraged or upset, but like a bitter pill - we swallow it and move on. This is NOT a good idea.

     No matter how many partners you may meet in your lifetime, there should always be at least one requirement - that you are treated with respect from day one until the end.

Look for areas of respect when...

1. You are intimate. He should respect your likes and dislikes.

2.You are talking to each other. He shouldn't speak to you like an angry dad or like you're an idiot.

3. You are arguing. Even in the heat of battle, you shouldn't be disrespected. If it gets that heated - someone should walk away.

4. He is around your friends and family. If he doesn't treat your friends/family with respect, then he doesn't respect you. They are an extension of you.

5. You are ending it. Even if the relationship is over and there are hurt feelings - he should have enough respect for what you did share to end it or accept the end with class.

Quick Tip: You teach others the amount of respect they will pay you. Even your worst enemy will respect you if you demand it. Demand what you are worth everyday.

Are You a Jealous Lover?

What do you do when that little, green eyed monster, as it's so often called, jealousy bites you? It can happen to the best of couples, no matter what stage your relationship is in. Sometimes, it feels like there is no defense against this ridge building phenomenon. Most people are not jealous by nature but jealousy is usually put into action by some event, situation or another person.

If you are insecure about your relationship and very dependent on your lover you are likely to be jealous. After jealousy creeps in we begin to spy on our lover, worrying about the situation and reviewing the evidence. Suspicion is a strong emotion here.

If we decide there is a threat to our love, we can have a very wide range of responses like clinging dependency, violent rage at the competitor or the partner, self-criticism, and depression with suicidal thoughts. But is there any way to conquer this feeling and i overcome jealousy?

Here are some ways you can handle jealousy

1. Isolate the cause of jealousy. You may think that jealousy is caused by your partner looking sexy or by a certain person at work. But that isn't the real cause. That is just a symptom. Try to understand what the real cause is, so that you can then work on finding a solution.
2. Focus on eliminating one jealousy trigger. You also need to realise that jealousy can be overcome easily. So start out by focusing on an activity where you work through one of the main triggers for your jealousy and try to find the cause.
3. Build up your self-esteem. Most of the jealousy situations are caused by the jealous lovers feeling that they are not good enough for their partners. They feel inadequate and they feel that their partner would leave them for someone else, if given half a chance. So one key thing to work on is to build up your self-esteem.

Are Friends Happy Being With You?

We all have different style of talking, laughing, smiling, responding and communicating. Some of us are a comfort for others. We enjoy being with some people and we don’t enjoy some people. What is the difference between these persons? Why one persons presence enlivens the gathering an other person dulls it? What are the qualities needed to make one self socially popular?

Smile -The very first quality is smile. When we see some body smiling, we feel pleased. And if the smile is without any malice it is more enchanting. Keep smiling. Keep your problems with yourself and keep your face smiling.

Listening - when we don’t speak but only listen, people love us. All of us have our own problems and need somebody to listen to us. Become a good listener. Ask open ended question such as - and after that? Why? And so on. That will encourage the speaker to pour out all to you.

Have something funny to say - There is enough pain in the world. Bring in some laughter. Have a collection of jokes and make your friends laugh. The more they laugh, the more they will enjoy your company.

Appreciate - have a word of appreciation for everyone. You can appreciate some body clothes, or shoes or what ever. Appreciate. Make friends feel good.

To be friendly and to be charming is not an art. It can be easily developed by all of us. The only need is to pay less attention to our self and more to others. Make friends happy and they will love your presence. Make your presence the life of any gathering. Success is yours.

Anything For Her

Looking for that perfect gift for the lady in your life? If you are out of ideas and can't think of anything to buy, this article will help you find something just for her.

Fortunately, women have the reputation of being easier to shop for than men. Jewelry is always welcome. You can find unique presents at an antique shop, and vintage jewelry is extremely fashionable. Consider buying her an Italian charm bracelet, the newest fad in jewelry. Italian charm bracelets do not resemble the dangling charm bracelets popular in the 1950s and 60s. These sleek bracelets are covered by snap-on segments which can feature a wide variety of patterns and designs. Some are studded with gems, others are covered by miniature enamel paintings, and they come in all metals from stainless steel to 18K gold to fit all budgets.

For serious relationships, diamonds are always appropriate, and a small set of 1/4 carat earrings only costs a few hundred dollars, while its sparkle will accent any outfit. If you don't know how to judge the quality of diamonds (there are short online courses for beginners) stick to a reputable local jeweler so you will be sure to get a high-quality item. Not all diamonds are created equal, as some are grey or yellow and included with particles that detract from their appearance and value. Learn about the four C's before buying diamonds to make sure you get a good bargain.

Online auction sites are good places to pick up jewelry and other gifts. Ebay is the most popular venue, but there are smaller sites as well where you can pick up a bargain.

If the lady you are buying for has a hobby or a collection, try to find something that adds to it. For instance, a doll collector would love to have a limited-edition Barbie. Birdwatchers will enjoy a full-day outing, and perhaps a picnic, near a bird sanctuary. Scrapbook owners can always use small mementos or photos of special occasions. If your lady likes books, find a signed or limited edition.

Many women appreciate art, so look for an original piece that suits her decor. She will think of you whenever she sees it.

If you know her size and taste, buy her some attractive article of clothing. It doesn't have to be something as intimate as lingerie, as long as you avoid completely utilitarian items such as socks (that vile old Christmas standard). Try a handknit sweater or some soft lined gloves for cold winter days.

And don't forget the other love of her life -- her pet. People who own pets consider them part of the family, and always appreciate gifts for them. Try a personalized or rhinestone-studded collar for the dog, or some gourmet cat food for her feline. Dog grooming certificates make a great gift and save time spent on cleaning, brushing, and clipping the nails of pets. If there is a cat or dog show in town, get some tickets for both of you.

If you can cook, make her a romantic dinner complete with wine and candles. Everyone loves to be spoiled and waited on. Baskets of luxury foods and snacks are gifts suitable for everyone.

Last but not least, don't forget flowers! A dozen roses are always romantic, and a tropical bouquet will brighten her home for days. Or buy an attractive potted plant, which lasts longer.

Whatever you do, make sure your gift shows some thought and consideration of her tastes. If possible, don't buy a generic gift suitable for anyone. After all, it's the thought that counts, and you want to demonstrate that you feel she is special and worth some extra effort.

Anniversary Ideas For Everyone

Are you about to celebrate a special anniversary with the one you love? Whether you have been together one year or fifty years it is important to celebrate the day in a special and memorable way. Sometimes, as much as you want to bless the one you love in a unique way, it is hard to come up with great anniversary ideas. One of the best ways to think of ideas can be to take a look back through the years of your relationship.

You will be surprised by how many perfect annivesary ideas you come up with simply by remembering special parts about the earliest parts of your time together. For instance, can you remember back to the first date the two of you shared? If so, try to recreate the date over again as a way of celebrating how far you've come. If you are still in the same city this kind of anniversary idea will be much easier to pull off.

Do you remember the first song the two of you danced to or the first film you saw together? Great anniversary ideas are sometimes as simple as renting that first film again or tracking down that old love song and dancing to it again. You will bless and probably surprise your special someone by your planning and the creativity you put into making great anniversary ideas happen.

Brainstorming other anniversary ideas can be easy when you simply think about the things that you and the one you love enjoy doing together. Consider planning a getaway weekend to an area that you have both wanted to visit. Or take your special someone on the cruise they have always wanted to go on. Be extravagant and do everything you can afford to make sure your anniversary is special. Do you love to hike and spend time in the mountains? Perhaps the best anniversary ideas for you would include a camping trip or renting out a cabin in the mountains that you love. Look for ways to incorporate things you already love to do together.

Celebrating anniversaries can be one of the best ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship. When you remember where you have been and all of the hard times that you have gotten through together it will be easy to celebrate a variety of anniversary ideas that come to your head. And perhaps the most important thing to remember as you try to gather and narrow down anniversary ideas is that in the end all that will matter is that you and the one you love get to spend quality
time together.

Actions Of Love

Myrna, 38 and a successful physician, sought my help because she often felt inadequate. While she really valued herself as a doctor, she did not value herself in her important relationships with friends and family. In addition, she said she wanted to be in a loving relationship but she took no actions to meet available men.

In the course of our work together, it became apparent that Myrna rarely took loving action in her own behalf with her friends and family. For example, Jessica, one of Myrna’s friends, would often get angry and blame Myrna when Myrna was not available for dinner with Jessica. Myrna would feel guilty and responsible for Jessica’s feelings and meet her for dinner even when she was exhausted from work. Myrna would feel drained after these dinners and depressed for a few days after, never realizing it was because she had not taken loving care of herself.

Myrna realized that the reason she was afraid to be in a relationship was because she had no idea how to take care of herself around others. She was terrified of completely losing herself in an important relationship. She realized that if she could not speak up for herself with Jessica, how could she ever speak up and take loving action for herself with a man she was in love with? She realized that she would continue to feel lonely, anxious, inadequate and depressed until she learned to take loving action for herself.

Many people suffer daily from anxiety, depression, stress, and anger as well as from feelings of guilt, shame and inadequacy. The major cause of these feelings is a lack of loving action in their own behalf.

Loving actions fall into two categories: Loving actions for yourself and loving actions in relationship to others.

LOVING ACTIONS FOR YOURSELF

Loving actions for yourself are those actions that attend to your own needs. When you take loving action in your own behalf, you are letting yourself know that you matter, you are important, you count. When you fail to take loving action, you give yourself the message that you are not important, which leads to feelings of depression and inadequacy.

Loving actions for yourself might include:

* Eating nutritious foods, avoiding junk food and sugar, eating when hungry and stopping when full.
* Getting enough exercise.
* Keeping your work and home environments clean and organized.
* Getting enough sleep.
* Creating a balance between work and play. Making sure you have time to get your work done, as well as time to do nothing, reflect, learn, play and create.
* Creating a good support system of people who love and care about you.
* Being organized with your time, getting places on time, paying bills on time, and so on.
* Choosing to be compassionate with yourself rather than judgmental toward yourself.
* Creating a balance between time for yourself and time with others.
* Making sure you are physically safe by wearing a seat belt in a car, a helmet on a motorcycle, scooter, or bike, goggles when necessary, and so on.

LOVING ACTIONS IN RELATIONSHIP TO OTHERS

Loving actions in relationship to others might include:

* Being kind and compassionate toward others without compromising your own integrity or ignoring your own needs and feelings.
* Saying no when you mean no and yes when you mean yes, rather than giving yourself up and going along with something you don’t want to do, or automatically resisting what another wants from you.
* Taking care of your own needs instead of trying to change and control others. Accepting your lack of control over others and either accepting them as they are or not being around them.
* Speaking your truth about what is acceptable to you and what is unacceptable and then taking action for yourself based on your truth.
* Taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and needs, instead of being a victim and making others responsible for your feelings and needs.
* Creating a balance between giving and receiving, rather than a one-way street with another person.

As a result of learning to take better care of herself alone and with others, Myrna no longer felt depressed and inadequate. She gradually lost her fears of being in a relationship, and is delighted to be meeting available men.

Abundance mentality

This is one of the biggest secrets to finding and keeping a good life partner. It  not only boils down to what you do, but how you think.

Here's what happened.

Some time ago, in my 30's I spent nearly 2 years single.  I used to wake up in the morning, leave my expensive house, get into my sports car and drive to my successful engineering business. After work, I went to the health club on my way home, exercised, played squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me.  Yet I never dated for months on end.

What's wrong with this picture?

 I had left a painful relationship, where I had been rejected by my partner  daily. So I  believed, that no-one would ever love me again, because I was  not worth it.  This belief came true in my life.

I just didn't think that there was someone out there, interested in me. This of course made it right.

Was it because I was unattractive? Hardly, I had a good build, clear skin, was fit and healthy, and even though I didn't look like Richard Gere, I certainly wasn't ugly.

Was it because I was financially insecure? No, I owned  a good business, drove a fancy car and lived in a big house with a view.

So there was nothing physically, causing my problem. It was all in my mind.

Hey, it gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of books,  I actually got  to go and take some action to  meet some new people. Then when  I did find someone, guess how that worked out.

You see, deep down, I still had that limiting attitude, that I was really fortunate to get anyone at all that wanted to be with me. They sensed it like  sharks smelling blood in the water. Describing it as that I partnered up with a predator, would have been an understatement.

The person I attracted, was a gold digger, having no scruples about sleeping with whoever she felt like. Was it her fault, yes BUT it was more my fault. I realized that  I allowed it to happen in my mind first. I believed that this was the best I could achieve and had to accept that behavior to actually have anyone in my life at all.

Eventually the boundaries of even my twisted logic broke, when she came back after being with another man, drunk and tried to stab me with a kitchen knife.

How could I allow it to get that far? Easy, I didn't understand that  I had choices. When I realized that even being alone again was better than my present situation, I did get out of that relationship.

Cutting a long story short, the whole issue was me having the wrong belief system.

It took some time, but eventually, I accepted that I was actually OK, and a lot of women could do far worse than to be in a relationship with me.  I now also understood, that there were actually many thousands of potential partners for me.

As soon as I started believing this, it was as though some flood gates had opened. I kept running into potential partners at every turn, and I was off the singles scene very quickly.

All I did  differently was that I had now accepted that there is actually a complete abundance in our universe. An abundance of suitable people. It was my choice, to accept or reject this fact. That  made the difference. Now my physical actions could lead me to my true desires.

My external surroundings had not changed much, Physically I was the same  (except getting a bit older, and not much wiser), but my life had  turned 180 degrees. Because I allowed it to. I let my mind accept that anything is possible, and nothing could stand in the way of a strong enough belief.

But, only severe pain brought about this realization.

You can avoid the pain. Understand the above, you have many choices now. They will let you do things in more positive ways. Realize, that  life will end up teaching you either way, let it be a pleasant instead of painful lesson.

In conclusion, imagine it, believe it, and see what happens.

Remember, keep on loving

A Priceless Birthday Gift

Kelly was a very wealthy Hollywood actress, who was used to a posh lifestyle. She lived in a multimillion dollar home in Beverly Hills. She had all sorts of people she paid to do things for her, such as her personal chef, her aerobics trainer, her gardener, her maid and her masseuse. She spared no expense to take care of her wants and needs.

Kelly was a great actress and had been nominated several times for Golden Globes and Academy Awards. She seemed to have everything she wanted.

In spite of losing her mother at a very young age, she had a very loving father and sister. Her Dad ensured that both of his girls got a great education. He also was very supportive of their career moves. Kelly had always wanted to be an actress. Her sister, Sarah, had always wanted to be a scientist.

Sarah drove from where she worked, at Jet Propulsion Laboratory, to her sister’s home.

It was Kelly’s birthday and she invited dozens of celebrities, ranging from actors to musicians. Each guest took turns giving Kelly her extravagant gifts, such as gold-plated picture frames, modern expensive artwork and items from Hong Kong. It was time for Sarah, her sister, to give Kelly her birthday present. She handed Kelly a brand new photo album. Kelly said jokingly, “A photo album, Sarah? Do you know how many photo albums I have? I don’t have enough pictures to fill all my photo albums.”

Sarah knew her sister’s sarcastic humor and took the comment in stride. She finally said, “Open the album, sister.” “But-“ “OPEN the album, Kelly,” Sarah said with conviction.

Kelly opened the photo album. There were many photos of an attractive woman and a handsome man in their mid-thirties next to two girls. Both girls appeared to be less than ten years old.

Kelly’s mouth slowly started to open rather widely as if she had been transformed on the spot. She began to weep as tears of love ran down her face. She stared at the first page of pictures for several minutes. She finally said softly, “It’s Mom.” She couldn’t say anything more for another few minutes as she turned the page. The room was silent. The next page contained pictures of her mother, father, Sarah and her at the Grand Canyon. “Our last trip together,” Kelly said even more softly. She couldn’t hold back the running tears, which were now like Niagara Falls. The people in the room started to cry as well. Most of them knew that Kelly lost her mother at a very young age.

“Where did you get these?” Kelly asked Sarah. “These are absolutely priceless.” “Dad found them in the attic. I had the same reaction as you. I had a photoshop restore many of the pictures and make several copies. I had to make an album for you and me. It’s the least I could do for Mom,” exclaimed Sarah. “Do you remember the hike along the Colorado River?” Kelly asked Sarah. “She was so mad when we jumped in the river.” Both sisters hugged each other. Sarah was now crying as much as Kelly. Both sisters’ tears were tears of embrace and loyalty. They both adored one another.

After about an hour of reminiscing with each other and the guests who surrounded them, Kelly said, “Sarah, this is the greatest birthday present anyone could ever give me. Thank you.”

A Love Spell Could Put Some Magic In Your Love Life

Have you ever had a secret love and wished that person would notice you and be attracted to you? Have you longed to develop a loving relationship with someone special, but found that your best efforts don't seem to be good enough? Have you desired a stronger and deeper relationship with your lover or special friend, but come to accept that they just don't want it as badly as you do.

Wouldn't it be nice if there was something you could do to open your lover's eyes so they were as eager as you to enter into the deeper love relationship you desire?

Many people have found exactly this kind of magic in Wiccan love spells.

Love spells are used to enhance and nourish almost any relationship or love need whether you wish to be reunited with your love, encourage your lover to make a deeper commitment, have a more passionate sex life, or even find your true love.

**What are Wiccan Love Spells?

Love spells have become a very popular form of magic (magick). Wiccan white magick spells rely on the positive energy located in all people and all things. Wiccan love spells are effective because they are designed to intensify and amplify the positive energy that is already present in a situation. They do not attempt to manufacture energy that is not already there.

There is a very broad range of love spells, each of which focuses on a slightly different objective. For instance there are love spells for reuniting with a previous love, and others for finding your true love. There are love spells to increase the passion in your love live, and others to encourage your lover to become more committed to your relationship. There are even sex and fertility spells to help in those areas.

In other words, different love spells can be used to amplify or positively influence any aspect of your love relationship.

**Is Casting a Spell an Attempt to Manipulate Others?

Love spells, as well as other Wiccan white magick spells, work with the positive energy that is in all things and all people. That means the practice of spell casting respects the free will of the people towards which the spells are directed.

While it is true that there are black magick forms of Wicca, white magick Wiccan love spells can be just as effective when cast correctly and in the right spirit. A responsible Wiccan spell caster will use spells that are worded to not be manipulative or violate free will.

For example, a reunited lovers’ spell can be worded to enhance, and bring to the surface feelings that already exist for you until your lover thinks of you so much they can’t wait to have you back.

In this way the spell is not creating new feelings, nor is it making your lover bind to you outside of his or her free will. This is not only respectful of the free will of your lover, but it is also a fullfilment of your deepest desire. You want your lover to desire you from his or her own free will, not because they have been manipulated to do so, or because they have been put in a kind of trance over which they have no control.

**Who Can Cast a Wiccan Love Spell?

An experienced Wiccan spell caster is the best person to cast a love spell for you. For instance, at http://practikalmagik.com Orion has been casting spells for more than 25 years, and knows all the factors that go into casting an effective spell. The most important of these is the wording of the spell itself, but the date and time of the spell casting is also important. As Orion says, "experience has taught me that casting on the best date in the lunar month yields far greater results than if cast immediately regardless of the lunar cycle."

On the other hand, if you prefer to cast the spell yourself, that is possible too. But obviously if you are inexperienced you will need some guidance. Orion's "Love Spell Kit" will give you "the finest, most potent and powerful wicca love spell, herbs, crystals and candles. You will receive easy step-by-step instructions and the exact same tools used in our own personal love spell casting."

Love spells can be an effective tool for enriching your love life. But be sure to remember the adage, "Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it." Think carefully of the type of love spell you want to cast, the possible results and what you hope to receive from the spell. You will find that love spells, as with any magick, can help turn your desires and wishes into realities in your life.

Apart from The Heart

Distance makes the heart grow fonder, which is especially true for Valentine’s Day. It is a wonderous thing to be with the one you love. And Saint Valentine was persecuted, endeavouring to maintain a pagan right of choice and the union of loving partnership.

There are innumerable factors why couples may find themselves alone on Valentine’s Day. Couples for example who are in a long distance relationship, an unscheduled business trip popping up, shift work -preventing couples from being together or an unexpected sickness, maybe a family emergency. These are just a few examples of reasons why couples may find themselves apart during Valentine’s Day.

While it's easy to understand the reasons why you and your partner cannot be together on Valentine’s Day, it does not make it any easier to accept, does it? Naturally it's not the be all and end all but you could find yourself feeling a little out of sorts and booting the dog - just joking Rover boy!
However, there is hope for those who are spending Valentine’s Day apart from their sole mates or loved ones. To be sure there are a few ways for making the day a lot more fun (some I won't cover). So, here splashed about are some ways to celebrate Valentine’s apart - using the most common situations of why partners are absent.

First up are couples who are in a long distance relationship. For these campers, they're probably already used to spending important days such as Valentine’s Day, anniversaries and other holidays apart, so not a problem really. Nevertheless, there are ways this couple can still spice up their celebration of Valentine’s Day together. Let’s see... both renting the same movie is a cute idea, with the mobile to hand they can "virtually speaking" watch the movie together. We won't talk about the phone bill here, can't be too cheap skate - anyway these days the special family tariffs give unlimited connections for peanuts so it's possible the couple can chat away on their cell phones ad infinitum, all the while they're watching the movie together. Also ordering in the same type of food, such as pizza or Chinese, may give the evening even more of a familiar spin - a feeling of togetherness for a little while.

Next let’s dip into the unfortunates who find them selves spending Valentine’s Day apart due to an unexpected business trip. Mmm… not great, particularly difficult since the couple is not used to being apart on important days and most likely don't have a great deal of time to prepare for spending the holiday apart. Discussion first and foremost about Valentine’s Day, really as soon as they realize they are going to be spending the holiday apart. Essentially deciding if and when to set a side a time to celebrate: before they separate or after they're back together, snug as a bug in a rug. Of course it's important for the couple to try to at least have some contact on Valentine’s Day even if it is over the phone, email or web cam. This at least may give a sense of being together; the idea is not to feel too distant or apart.
Having flowers or a special message delivered to your partner while you are separated are oldies but goodies and a great gesture of caring.

Concluding this small applet, there are those who cannot spend Valentine’s Day together because one or both of them have work which involves odd shifts. This could include doctors, fire-fighters, police officers or a variety of other professions. Individuals in this type of situation have to generally accommodate and adjusted to their odd schedule and make time to be together outside of working hours. In this case the best way to deal with being apart on Valentine’s Day is to plan on celebrating together when it is more convenient. This may not seem like the most romantic option but sometimes it is important to remember that you love your partner every day of the year and you don’t have to be together on Valentine’s Day to prove your love for each other.

A Little Patience Goes a Long Way

We all know that relationships can be difficult. One of the best methods we have for making every relationship less stressful and more enjoyable is to show a little patience.  Patience has been defined as what we lack for the driver in front of us and demand from the driver behind us.

In truth, patience is nothing more than time.

Time before we say something: Think of a time when someone was not patient with you when you needed them to be. Think of how you felt. Think of how deeply you might have been hurt. The next time you find yourself losing patience with another, take a moment to remind yourself of how you felt when someone had no patience with you.

Time before moaning and groaning: Patience takes time, but no more time than the showing of anger; of stomping or yelling or whining or complaining. A little patience can often resolve a conflict that a loss of patience will only escalate.

Time to just let things run their course: Arnold H. Glasow said, “The key to everything is patience. You get a chicken by hatching an egg, not by smashing it.” Some things require a certain amount of time. Losing patience only hurts ourselves and won’t speed up the process.

So take the time to smile instead of frown; the time to wink instead of snarl. How much time does it really take to give someone a small nod or a pat on the back? We never stop to think about how a little of our time can make such a big difference in how we make another feel.

Benjamin Franklin said, “He that can have patience can have what he will.”

The lack of patience is the key to so much unhappiness and grief in this world, when all it requires is a little time on our part. One of the simplest ways to build stronger relationships and bring more happiness into our lives is by becoming a little more patient. Showing someone patience is really giving to another that which we wish to receive, while a lack of patience is nothing more than a reflection of ourselves.

A Good Communication Technique

Human beings are social beings and we are interacting with people every day of our life.  Often, our happiness depends a great deal on how the interactions with each person turn out.  This is especially true of those whom we care about e.g. in close friendships as well as in marriage.  However, because each personality we deal with is unique and presents its own challenges, managing the myriad of relationships requires us to consciously observe the process and impact of our interactions so that we continue to gain knowledge, understanding and experience in developing relationships in a positive way.

 I have realized that to have good management of relationships, we need to be assertive and honest in sharing our thoughts, feelings and concerns.  However, this needs to be done in a way that does not provoke the other party, but is instead respectful and encourages both parties to listen to each other.  A good way to do this is through the communication technique of "I" Messages.

In "I" messages, statements are made about ourselves, how we feel and our concerns, and what actions of the other party has led to the concerns.  "You" messages focus on the other person and would usually lead the other party to become defensive unless the "You" message is a positive statement of the other person.  For example, a husband or wife is waiting for the return of the spouse and when the spouse returns, he or she might be greeted by this: "You are always coming home late!  Why can't you come back earlier?"  This "You" message leads to the spouse feeling blamed and attacked and the ensuing communication would likely not be an amiable one.  In a conflicting situation, "You" message focuses on attacking the other person.  As a result, the primary issues are pushed aside.  In contrast, in this same scenario, an "I" message would look like this: "I feel rather lonely while waiting for you to come home.  I'm concerned that you are often home late and I get rather frustrated wondering when you're going to be home."  In this statement therefore, the speaker shares his or her feelings and concerns.  The clear communication of the concern is a good starting point for both parties to work out what can be done about it.

"I" messages are effective because the focus is on the issue or concern and not on the other person.  The sharing of the speaker's feelings can also lead to more trust in the relationship as it shows the speaker is willing to look within himself or herself and take responsibility for his or her feelings.

In fact, generally in most interactions, my opinion is that the use of "I" messages is always superior to "You" messages and is a more respectful way of communicating.  So, even when expressing positive feelings, a "You" message: "You look good in this dress", could be enhanced by "I" messages: "I'm so happy to see you.  I remember all the fun we used to have.  You look good."

Generally, there are three parts to an "I" message:

I feel _________________ (express your feeling)
when you _____________ (describe the action that affects you or relates to the feeling)
because _______________ (explain how the action affects you or relates to the feeling)

The order in which the 3 parts are expressed is usually not important.
Sometimes a fourth part might be added.  This states our preference for what we would like to take place instead.

Examples of more "I" messages:

"I get very anxious when you raise your voice at me because it makes me feel like I've done something very wrong.  Could you please not raise your voice when we talk?"

"I'm so happy you're learning to cook because then I'll know you can prepare your own meal when I'm unable to be home in time to cook."

"When you take so long talking to your friend on the phone, I'm concerned that there might be urgent calls that cannot come through.  Also, I feel frustrated as I would like to spend more time with you.  How about asking your friend to call at another time, when I am not around."

Use of "I" messages might not come naturally to most people initially.  However, with practice, you will be surprised at how you will begin to like this communication approach, especially when you begin to experience the good result of better quality interactions and more harmonious relationships.

17 Seduction Tips

Seduction is the most exciting thing in a relationship. It isn't bad or wrong, it's absolutely necessarily. The power of seduction is a gift. But not all of us have it, so we have to learn how to seduce the woman we want. Seduction can mean a couple of different things: it is a method that lets men have more success with women on a regular, repeatable basis and also it is a process   by which one person leads another to the beginning of a sexual relationship.

Choose very well your target. Maybe it is there a beautiful sexy lady after you look anytime you see her on the street, but you never think that you will have a chance with her. Why don't you try to seduce her, maybe you'll win. But before you start, you must know that there are a few steps in seducing a woman:

- you have to be ready so get over your past rejection, overcome your shyness and clear your mind and think about what about you are going to talk with her

- interrupt her and get her attention next time when you see her; initiate with women, it takes guts to ask her out, ask her phone number

-create a conversational connection with her and show that you are able to understand her, make her sees you as romantic partner; lots of women love this

Considering that you get your first date with her, here are some tips for seduction that might help you:

-first of all, train your mind and focus on your goal, and remember that your goal is to get that woman; so you must know which are the mistakes from the past, and not make them again

-choose the perfect place for effective seduction, a place with a comfortable atmosphere, avoid places too bright lights or too dull ambiance

-eliminate every possible obstacle; convince yourself from the beginning that you can seduce her, even if you never did this before

-be yourself, show that you are well groomed and watch out about the basis hygiene; no women like a man with dirty clothes, or with a smell breath
                                                                          
-relax and smile as often as you can but be controlled; you just have to please her

-eyes contact it is very important when seducing; eyes are capable of showing your deepest emotions but watch out to not stare at her

-let her know that you are interested; women like to make them feel good about themselves

-the first impression usually last: show her that you are not interested only for sex

-have the right attitude – fearless and not arrogant, convince her that you are confident in your own skin

-do not shutter or look nervous, a confident person has much more chance of seducing

-have self confidence, sense of humor and self control

-show her that you are a gentleman; not many men from our days are; treat her like a princess, respect her for what she is and compliment her

-do not touch her in an offensive way; touch her slightly on her hands and even shoulders and you will see what's next

-tease her; a woman will be attracted to men who tease and challenge her; teasing raises frustration which starts her attraction; if you are wanted by other women, you will command her respect and attraction

-be creative; you may buy her a nice gift and be genuine when you give it to her

-learn to dance; nothing turns on a person more than dancing, as you can get intimidate with each other without feeling awkward

-prepare your conversation; indulge a conversation that interest her too; women like intellectual conversations; talking will break the ice and seduction becomes more easier since the woman is comfortable; best way to start a conversation is with a genuine compliment

Women are attracted to specific, confident traits in men and your behavior demonstrates them. So start watching what women actually respond to, not what they say they want.

A Friend In Need

Here’s the scenario: Julie, a hardworking secretary, lent money to her good friend Ray; $1300 to be exact. Ray had just moved to a new town and claimed that he needed two new suits: one for an upcoming wedding and one to wear on job interviews. Ray lived in a beautiful penthouse. He had a degree in Computer Science and was accustomed to the finer things in life – designer labels, frequent travel, and spa week-ends. When Ray told Julie he would repay her and signed a paper promising to do so, Julie didn’t think anything of it.

A couple of weeks later, Ray tried to hit Julie up for more money; this time to furnish his new home. When she told him that she wouldn’t be able to help him out this time, he accused her of being cold and hung up the phone on her. Julie suddenly realized that she was being taken advantage of. Her hurt quickly turned to rage. She wanted to know how someone could be so self-serving and inconsiderate. If Julie had been weak enough to lend Ray another several hundred dollars for furniture, how could he sleep at night knowing that she had expenses of her own to look after?

We as women have an innate desire to nurture whenever possible. Many of us have learned the hard way we must always keep our guard up – spot when we may be being misled or taken advantage of. It is a common belief that a woman who is eager to lend money to a man, suffers from niavity, desperation, or poor self-esteem. But in this case it was a loan not a gift, and a friendship not a romantic relationship.

We all know how risky it is to lend money to a friend of either sex. Some of us decide to give the lendee the benefit of the doubt because we think we know and trust them. Some of us are vigilant enough to take precautions to make the loan legally binding. The bottom line is that we need to stop stereo-typing and pointing fingers at a woman who would lend a man money. We need to take a closer look at the character of anyone who would try to take advantage of a friend’s generosity.

Along with her respect for him, Julie also lost all compassion for Ray and their so-called friendship deteriorated.? The fact of the matter is that no one can respect a man who fails to respect others. When he performs actions that are self-serving and manipulative, his sincerity, his honour, his integrity, are all called into question.

They say,"It's not what we eat but what we digest that makes us strong; not what we gain but what we save that makes us rich; not what we read but what we remember that makes us learned; and not what we profess but what we practice that gives us integrity."

13 Magical Things to do in a Relationship

When you know that you have found the perfect
woman for you, make sure that she feels the same
about you. You are crazy about her and want to
make her feel happy with you, that's why you are
ready to make all the sacrifices to impress her,
to show her how much you care about her, or to
not permit that routine to come into your
relationship.

With all this sacrifices to show her your
feelings, to keep your relationship as cool as it
was at the beginning, you feel that you have to
make something more interesting. That's why you
should induce “magic “into your relationship even
if you are hopeless romantic or not.  To add more
intimacy, love, understanding and compassion in
any relationship is always welcome.

So, here are some magical things to do in order
to impress your partner in a good way and
increase your relationship:

1.Surprise her by taking her lunch and coffee at
bed right after she woke up; if you didn't do
this before she will definitely be impressed;
also cooking a pizza for her and cut it in a
heart shape it is very romantic; a woman will
always find interesting a man who is able to cook
for her, no matter what kind of food it is;  even
if it wouldn't be too tasty, she will appreciate
that you have tried

2.Set up a picnic in the park; even it is an
usually day, prepare all you need for a picnic,
go get your girlfriend and go for a walk; don't
tell her from the beginning what you plan to, let
it be a surprise; a ' going out' at a picnic in
the fresh air is always welcome and relaxing

3.Send her flowers anytime and anywhere, that is
unexpected; women love flowers, so sending her
flowers without any reason will demonstrate her
that you really care about  and make her feel
loved and special; the most probably that she
will answer you with the same love you show her

4.Fill her apartment with balloons or something
she likes, maybe it's a crazy idea, but it
usually works to impress girls; it will be seen
as a funny thing by your partner and remember
that some fun is necessary in any relationship

5.If you are good at writing, write her a poem,
or create a book for her with a special
dedication; this will definitely work if she
love poems;  don't begin to write a poem only if
you know that you are good at it, other way you
will screw up

6.Reading romantic poetry in the middle of the
living room on a blanket in soft candlelight, it
is a very good way to offer your partner a
wonderful evening; women are often more romantic
than men, that's why they like to be surprised by
men with romantic ideas

7.Massages are always magic when done right;
buying different flavored edible  bars to
experiment with each other can be more surprising;
 but if you are not good at making massage, go to
a spa together and get a couples massage together

8.Go for a romantic meal; make reservations at a
beautiful restaurant and create a romantic
atmosphere with candles, roses and slow music;
offer her a night to never forget

9.Going for a walk at night and looking at the
stars and moon is almost such romantic as the
restaurant, and is cheapest; so it is not
necessary to have a lot of  money to offer your
partner a lovely evening; it can be very
interesting

10.If you can afford it, take her in holiday in
an exotic place, like a beautiful island, only
you two alone, with sunshine and plenty of water,
where you will spend a wonderful time together,
and will not be disturb by friends, family,
relatives

11.But, if you can't afford to go in a exotic
place, to the sea,  there's no problem; bubble
baths together are always magic times;

12.Surprise visits; surprise her with your visits
when she is not expecting at all; while you are
able to surprise her in a good way, she will not
lose interest in you

13.Don't be afraid to talk sweet nothings into
her ear; make the woman feel good by saying sweet
and romantic things to her at any given time; as
i sad, women love romance

13 Love Killer Phrases

To be in loved with a girl and start a relationship is a wonderful thing. Long term relationships are usually based on love, trust and honesty. Even if honesty is very important in a relationship, sometimes may be hurtful. There are some things that can't be told to the partner because it may hurt her, or make her change the opinion about you. For example, some bad things you've done in the past, a truth about her that will make her feel bad if you tell her, and so on.

Even if you love her very much and you are getting pretty close, these things that can affect your relationship should be kept in secret. Sometimes you can best show her your love by keeping your mouth shout. So, before you start to be too confident and directly with her, you should take a look at these things that may destroy your relationship.

Never tell her she is getting fat

Even if this is true, you can't tell her this. It will make her feel very bad, and will think that you don't like her anymore. Think about   how she would feel if you go there and say: '' honey, you could stand to lose a little weight ''. Let her decide when is the time to lose weight because she will do it without you hurting her. In most of the cases when a man told her girlfriend that she got fat, he gets dumped.

Don't tell her how your mother would have done things

I know that for men their mothers always represent a model in life, but we have to admit that all the families are different. So, we have been raised by different kinds of parents and in different ways of life. Everyone is taught to do things in their ways and that's why you can't ask your girlfriend to do things or to live like your mother. A woman can have her views and opinions, and all you can do about this is to tell her stories about how you were raised and how things have been done in your family. You should adapt at this new way of life, without comparing her with your mom.

Don't tell her that you like to visit your mom too often

Maybe in that moment you love your mother more that her, but you don't have to show it. She may think that she is competing with your mom, or worst, that you are depending on mommy. It is not at all in your favor.

Don't criticize her when she is trying to do her best

This is the worst thing you can do. If she sees that she is trying hard to do the things fine and you begin criticize her, she would feel disappointed that you don't know to appreciate her for the fact that she is trying her best. So you should get over it, and offer you to help her in doing that job. Maybe next time she'll be doing better.

Never tell her if your family doesn't like her

Even if your family dislike her, it is better to not tell her because she will get angry and insecure. This will create future problems and tension between her and your family. All you can do is to let your family know that she is the one you have chosen and they have to respect your decision. Try to make them change their minds about her.

Don't remind her about your ex in a special moment

Never ever compare your dating nights or things you do together with the ones you have done with your ex. It might happen to go with her in places where you have been with the other, but don't remind her that. It is a hurtful thing for her to see that you are still thinking about the other.

Also, never compare her to your ex in bed. She will feel bad to find out that the other was better than she in bed. No woman likes to be compared to another, in any aspect.

Don't recognize if you have done bad things in your past

If she doesn't find out already, you better keep your mouth shout; it is in your favor. If you tell her that you have cheated your past girlfriends, for example, she will have a totally bad opinion about you, and also fell disappointed. So these things you shouldn't divulge.

Never tell her that a football game is more important for you than her

Even if is an important game, don't tell her to let you alone in that moment because you are busy and don't have time for her. You better smile and pretend that you are listening to her too, and try to catch the key words. She might ask you what she was talking to you to test you.

Don't tell her that you hate her friends

Because she knows her friends for a long time that she knows you, it is not a good idea to tell her that she doesn't like her friends, or to say something bad about them. She may get angry about this, so you better pretend that you like them and everything is ok.

Don't ask her to relax when she is very angry

When she is very upset, scared, or very angry the worst thing you can do is to ask her to relax. This will make her angrier because she will think that you don't take her in serious. If you upset her by making some bad things, if you just say her to relax she will understand that you are denying that there is a reason to be upset.

Don't tell her that you are insecure

In a relationship or dating woman is looking after a strong and confident man. So if you are insecure, or you are jealous on her because, for example, she has a better salary than yours, you have to keep this aspect just for yourself. She doesn't have to know it if you want that things between you to go well.

Don't declare your love during a fight

The words ‘‘I love you ‘‘mean a lot for a woman that's why it should be said at the right moment. But most of guys say this during they have a fight with their partner, in the worst moment ever. When you are mistaking in front of her, and let’s say that you feel guilty, you want her to forgive you, so you declare your love for her. It is a wrong choice. She doesn't believe a word in what you say because she considers that if you really loved her you wouldn't upset her. You may say you love her but only after your fight is over.

Do not tell her that you like her girlfriend

Maybe one of her girlfriends is very beautiful and you would like to meet her first, but your actual partner shouldn't find this. If you say her that her best friends looks very good, she will feel hurt, angry and will never trust you around her friends. So keep it secret and make sure to not be obvious from your attitude that you like staring at her girlfriend sometimes.

If you want to have a long and strong relationship you shouldn’t permit that some things you may say to destroy it. Don't be completely honest about the things which should not be told.

10 Top Relationship Tips

What's the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million dollar question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that  hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.

1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.

2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship. A good relationship is built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.

3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner warts and all. Don't try to change them into something they're not, after all you fell in love with them just the way they were.

4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.

5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn't want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing, is the making up afterwards.

6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgement. Don't let your emotions dictate your behaviour. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.

7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go downhill over the years, don't just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the
bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember communication is vital.

8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don't get to dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this, don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance
between the two.

9.Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.

10. Don't ever think that going to counselling is a sign of a failed relationship. It can turna bad relationship around and can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to counselling today than ever, it shows you are both prepared
to try and make things better, which can't be a bad thing at all.

The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it's the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to making your relationship work.

10 Tips For Loving In The Fast Lane

Do you ever feel like you catch up with your partner infrequently, often late at night when you’re too tired to speak?  Or when your timetables happen to collide?  There are work dinners, school outings, sporting practice, dinners with friends, homework to supervise, household chores and so the list goes on.  Do you feel like you need to make a date night just to spend some one on one time with your other half?  Time when you’re not sleeping?

If this sounds like you then I’m sure you will enjoy these tips for keeping each other close at heart, even if you can’t always be as physically close as you’d like.  

Its all about communicating and sharing the little things that make up our lives.  Here are ten easy ways to make your feelings known:

1. Birthday love letter.  There is something powerful about a letter.  A few years ago my husband and I agreed to write a love letter for each other’s birthday.  I think I picked it up from a magazine article about Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise.  Apparently it’s something they used to do in lieu of expensive presents.  Obviously it didn’t work for their marriage but we’ve found it has become the part of our birthday celebrations that we enjoy the most.

Writing down all the things that you love about the other person and then giving it to them is a very personal and thoughtful thing to do.  In many cases its better than any gift you could possibly imagine and something to appreciate and cherish even when the birthday is a distant memory.  You can do it for your children too if you have any and they will never need to doubt that you love them.   Of course, you don’t have to wait until it is your loved ones birthday to send them a letter – anytime is a good time to tell them how you feel about them.

2. Sit down and talk about your day.  When we can we sit down at the table to eat our evening meal and take it in turns to talk about what we did in our day.  Even our two and a half year old joins in.  For a long time he would talk about who he saw rather than what he did but now he’s getting the hang of it.  The other thing we take it in turns to do is name the best and worst things that happened that day.  Sometimes so much happens each day that it helps to pause and reflect on what were the highlights and lowlights.

3. Celebrate all your partner’s successes with them – from a high five to a glass of champagne.  Whatever the scale of the success calls for, make it a joint celebration.

4. Allow yourself to be impressed by your partner and let them know.  ‘I’m proud of you’ is something that I think everyone loves being told by someone they care about.

5. Never underestimate the power of a hug – train your kids to hug you back.  My five year old son Jack loves hugs.  He loves giving them and getting them.  Sometimes he will spontaneously hug someone if he feels they are a bit sad, although usually he asks first if they would like ‘a Jack hug’.

6. Send them a photo that means a lot to you and tell them why its important – you could use a Show & Tell Card.  It’s a new type of greeting card that lets you stick your photo on the front and is blank inside so you can write what you like.   Go to http://www.showandtellcards.com for more information.

7. Share an experience.  It could be a movie, a new CD, magazine article, or a short story.  Talk about what you read or saw and why you liked or disliked it.   And do it regularly.

8. Compliments.  Everyone loves getting them so never pass up the opportunity to give one of these reliable mood boosters.  You can give them in person or write them on a small piece of paper and leave them somewhere unexpected for your loved one to find.

9. Dance.  It doesn’t take long to find a great song you both enjoy, put it on and dance around the living room floor – probably 5 minutes maximum but it is a wonderful way to physically reconnect with each other in between dinner and desert or at the end of a long evening or you could make it an unusual way to start your day.

10. Thoughtful gestures.  Doing something unexpected, especially when you’re loved one is busy and stressed, is a lovely way to show that you understand what they are going through and that they have your support.

Showing your partner how much you love them need not take a lot of time and you will be rewarded many times over for your effort.  Get loving today!

10 Perfect Places to Meet Women

In our days, in this big world, there are a lot
of single people who spend their life alone.
There are a lot of wonderful ladies out there
just waiting to meet the man of their dreams,
hoping that someday this will appear.  Also, many
single men would like to meet their special one,
but the only problem is that they don't know very
well where to find the woman they want.

Learn to meet new people. In this fast paced
world, too many people out there are lonely.
Change your attitude and get out there and make
new friends.

So, if you want to meet someone new, you should
start by spending your time in the places most
visited by women, the best places to meet them.

1. Through friends and family. Surely you have a
lot of friends. If you are single, you should
spend much time with the boys, go with them at
parties. This is a good opportunity to meet
special girls which they probably know and help
you to get the one you like. It is one of the
most easy way to meet someone because your
friends presents you the girl and all you have to
do is to get know her better.

2. At work. Maybe you are a very busy man working
till late and don't have time to go out to
looking for a partner. In this case, the best
partner for you is somebody who is as busy as you
are and understands the reason why you don't have
too much time for her. If you are surrounded by
many women at your work, watch out because there
can be the perfect woman for you.

3. The mall. We all know that women love to go
shopping. That's why mall is always full of women
especially at the clothing area. From the big
number of girls meet here you can choose the one
you want and start a conversation with her by
offering your service to help her carry her bags.
 It's just a beginning, you'll see if you have a
change to get a date with her.

4. At the gym. Why to keep making sport at home,
alone , when you can go to the gym, a place with
many beautiful women, with a perfect body. It's a
good opportunity to show that you are in a very
good shape too and attract the athletic and
beautiful woman you ever dreamed of.

5. Museums and art galleries. Here you can find
women that are better educated. You must act with
some elegance and refinement here. If you don't
know anything about the artists or pieces, act
with confidence and try to find out something
about the exhibit.

6. Public places: theater, cinema, disco, parks.
We all know that a woman who is single doesn't
like to spend her time alone in the house. She
likes to go out with their friends hoping to find
a partner. So, go to a disco, have fun and there
you have all the chances to find your special one.

7. Group dance lessons. There are a lot of women
who like to dance. You should follow some dance
lessons not only because in this place are a lot
of beautiful women, but it is important to know
to dance. Also it is a   good chance to
approaching women, some of the dances being very
sensual and exciting.

8. Jewelry stores. I think that is no woman who
doesn’t like jewelries. Women are very
preoccupied on how they look that's why they like
to change their jewelries very often.

9. College. It's a place with an abundance of
women everywhere you look. It's the perfect place
to meet a young and smart girl like the one from
your dreams. The advantage is that you can choose
from a big number of girls.

10. Internet personals. If you don't like to go
out with your friends and prefer to spend your
time alone in the house in front of your computer,
 you may find a partner online. It is a very easy
way to meet someone and make new friends. After
you get to know better a girl online you may ask
her for a date. It will be more easily for you to
win her at your date now that you already know
how she's thinking and what she likes.

10 Reasons Why Some Relationships don’t Work

You are single, bored and you just have nothing
to do. It is another miserable day like the day
before. You need someone to talk to and you are
turning on the computer, browsing some... dating
sites. There are so many people... singles, like
you are.

What should you ask from them? Can they change
your life for better?

The answer to the last question is up to you.
Would you let a person you have met online to
change your life? Are you willing to do this?  Do
you trust someone you have met this way?

SOME people simply do not have the courage to let
an online relationship to develop and change in a
normal healthy relationship. Are you one of them?

Let me re-ensure you that online relationships
really are working, and yes it can change your
entire life, in a good way. :)

But there are some impediments or mistakes which
are leading to the end of the relationship
between two people that could have had a good
future together:

1. First of all if you do not take people you are
taking to too seriously, you will be treated the
same way.

2. Being too secret and reserved. If you do not
tell things about you and you are not working to
develop a relationship, nobody will make this for
you.

3. Trust or lack of trust is the biggest
impediment of an eRelathionship. You have to try
to get the people you are taking to trust in you,
and then find out if that person is a trustworthy
one. There are so many ways to check out this.

4. Being shy. If you are interested in someone
and you want to meet her/him offline, let her/him
know this.  What do you have to lose?

5. Fear of disappointment or fear of becoming a
victim of someone with bad intentions can make
you paranoid. It is good to be preventive but not
exaggerate about this. It is not funny and will
pull people away.

6. Unbelieving. If you do not believe that an
eRelathionship can become something more then it
is, you will not pay too much attention and...
You get exactly what you give and some more, don’
t you?

7. Do not make that relationship a priority in
your life. Any human needs to feel that is
important for someone, that is the center of
someone life, even if you have meet that human
online. Don’t you feel the same? Wouldn't you pay
more attention to someone if you would know that
you are a priority in his/her life?

8. Not making the next step. Talking online can
be fun but it is not enough to get to know a
person better and after a while it can become
boring. Talking on the phone can help you two to
develop the relationship and do not forget that
you can feel chemistry only when you two are
meeting face to face, touching each other,
feeling the smell of her/his perfume.

9. Beeing insincere, pretending that you are
something that you are not will lead you
eventually to the end of any relationship. So be
honest from the very beginning, maybe you have
just meat the mach of your life, don't take the
risk to lose her because of a stupid mistake.

10. Thinking that online dating sites are some
kind of shops where you can find a lover like you
find a pear of shoes, and if you are braking the
shoes you can go back to that shop and buy
another pair just like the first. It is not true,
every human, every soul is unique. If you lose
her/him it is for good. So I am sure that you
will have problems like all couples have but it
is worthy to make the effort to solve these
problems together.

Be happy that the technology gives you the chance
to meet your match online, but do not waste this
chance, it could never come back to you.

10 Common Lies Told by Women

Why are some relationships more honest than others? Why are some couples more truthful with each other while others like to deceive the partner? Nobody deserves to be lied, but there are no doubts that women are telling lies considerably and often. But so men do the same.

If you have trust issues in your relationship, in general, a woman may lie to you. Trust is something that you must build from the beginning of the relationship. Even though, a lot of people say ‘‘white lies'' in order to make others feel better. Some women lie because, as caring creatures they want to spare the feelings of the man they are dating or seeing.

So, here are some common lies told by women that you should know. Someday you might hear them from your partner and it is better to know their real meaning.

1.You're perfect. I love you just the way you are and I wouldn't change a thing about you. Let's be serious; nobody is perfect. At the beginning of a relationship all of them say this because they didn't know you very well but after some time will definitely find something that needs changed. So, if she tells you something like this, don't be too enthusiastic because she finds you perfect just for a couple of days, and after that she will ask you to change.

2.You're right. Every time you are arguing with you're girlfriend usually ends up by telling you that you are right? Maybe this makes you feel proud of you, but you have to know that this is a big lie. She said this just to make you shut up, even if she didn't consider that you're right. She knows that after a while you will see that she was right, and may be waiting for apologize.

3.Nothing is wrong. The most common lie '' I'm fine'' when asked if there is something wrong is the most used by women. You see that she is upset, she is acting strange or doesn't want to talk to you too much and ask her what is the problem she says that everything is fine. They don't want to tell the real truth but they are expecting that men to figure out that something is wrong and those they had a mistake with something.

4.I do love sports honey. Maybe she agrees to stay and watch with you every week at a football game but this doesn't really mean that she like it. She accepts to do this just to show you that she is different from other girls and you have common interest. You may be thinking that you have found the perfect girl for you, because not many of them would like to stay to watch football, but don't be too happy because after a while she might had enough and get angry every time you sit down to watch a game.

5.I like spending time with your friends. At the beginning this is ok, but not too much. Even if   they are good friends of you, she would like to spend more time alone with you and not with your friends. If she didn't tell you already this, she will ask you to keep visits from your buddies at minimum and then she might keep pretending she loves them.

6.Your family is adorable, so I like spending time with your family. The truth? Maybe twice a month. Think about it. Do you really think that she likes to spend time with your family where everybody is criticizing her and watch her every move? She agrees to spend time with your family when is necessary but she doesn't do it with much pleasure even if she is pretending in front of you that she likes them.

7.Your bank account doesn't matter. I hope you didn't believe this. We all know that this is definitely a lie. All women want a guy that is financial stable and independent, a guy that can assure her a future with no financial problems. This doesn't mean that you have to be very rich to have a girlfriend, but you have to have some money.

8.It doesn't bother to me if you look after women or go with your boys at strip-clubs.  This is too good to be truth. Even she says that this is ok, she will definitely be upset that you want to go. They hate to feel second best to a night out with the guys, and accept this in order to make themselves seem less pathetically needy. If you choose to go, she will make you a lot of comments after, so you better think twice before you go.

9.You are very good in bed. If she choose to speak about this topic without you ask her, you don't have to believe all she says. If she starts to compliment you about your sexual experience it doesn't mean that she really believes that. Often a woman who cares about a man tell him all that she knows he wants to hear just to make him feel good about himself. So think about your girlfriend, your relationship, your sexual experience and see if you really deserve compliments on this topic.

10.Don't worry, it happens to everyone. If you just make a mistake, or fail in bed, you might hear this lie from your girlfriend. She doesn't want to show you how upset she is on you but in her mind thinks something else. I wouldn't be too sure that your mistake is forgiven and I would worry in not making too many '' accidents'' like these.

With all these presented, now will be more easy for you to know when your girlfriend is lying. As you see, what a woman says is not what she really thinks.

7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction.

I’ve discovered, in the 35 years that I’ve been counseling couples, 7 choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF

This is the most important choice you can make to improve your relationship. This means that you learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. This means that instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure, you learn how to do this for yourself through your own thoughts and actions. This means learning to treat yourself with kindness, caring, compassion, and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Self-judgment will always make you feel unhappy and insecure, no matter how wonderfully your partner is treating you.

For example, instead of getting angry at your partner for your feelings of abandonment when he or she is late, preoccupied and not listening to you, not turned on sexually, and so on, you would explore your own feelings of abandonment and discover how you might be abandoning yourself.

When you learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. Since blaming one’s partner for one’s own unhappiness is the number one cause of relationship problems, learning how to take loving care of yourself is vital to a good relationship.

KINDNESS, COMPASSION, ACCEPTANCE

Treat others the way you want to be treated. This is the essence of a truly spiritual life. We all yearn to be treated lovingly – with kindness, compassion, understanding, and acceptance. We need to treat ourselves this way, and we need to treat our partner and others this way. Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return. If your partner is consistently angry, judgmental, uncaring and unkind, then you need to focus on what would be loving to yourself rather than reverting to anger, blame, judgment, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. Kindness to others does not mean sacrificing yourself. Always remember that taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming others is the most important thing you can do. If you are consistently kind to yourself and your partner, and your partner is consistently angry, blaming, withdrawn and unavailable, then you either have to accept a distant relationship, or you need to leave the relationship. You cannot make your partner change – you can only change yourself.

LEARNING INSTEAD OF CONTROLLING

When conflict occurs, you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. We’ve all learning many overt and subtle ways of trying to control others into behaving the way we want: anger, blame, judgment, niceness, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal of love, explaining, teaching, defending, lying, denying, and so on. All the ways we try to control create even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship.

For example, most people have two major fears that become activated in relationships: the fear of abandonment – of losing the other - and the fear of engulfment – of losing oneself. When these fears get activated, most people immediately protect themselves against these fears with their controlling behavior. But if you chose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fear would eventually heal. This is how we grow emotionally and spiritually – by learning instead of controlling.

CREATE DATE TIMES

When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. Then, especially after getting married, they get busy. Relationships need time to thrive. It is vitally important to set aside specific times to be together – to talk, play, make love. Intimacy cannot be maintained without time together.

GRATITUDE INSTEAD OF COMPLAINTS

Positive energy flows between two people when there is an “attitude of gratitude.” Constant complaints creates a heavy, negative energy, which is not fun to be around. Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Complaints create stress, while gratitude creates inner peace, so gratitude creates not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.

FUN AND PLAY

We all know that “work without play makes Jack a dull boy.” Work without play makes for dull relationships as well. Relationships flourish when people laugh together, play together, and when humor is a part of everyday life. Stop taking everything so seriously and learn to see the funny side of life. Intimacy flourishes when there is lightness of being, not when everything is heavy.

SERVICE

A wonderful way of creating intimacy is to do service projects together. Giving to others fills the heart and creates deep satisfaction in the soul. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life.

If you and your partner agree to these 7 choices, you will be amazed at the improvement in your relationship!

7 Warning Signs That She is Not Interested in You Anymore

To break up a relationship is a harder decision
when we talk about a long term one.

In most cases when woman is no longer interested
in a relationship she doesn't want to be the one
to end it. But even when she is already made the
decision to break it up, she will take some time
to give you some signs to prepare you, before she
tells you.

If you feel that something is going wrong it is
time to take a closer look at your relationship.
Here are seven warning signs she is no longer
interested:

1. This is probably the most classic subtle
signal of all: her life become too hectic. She
hasn't picked up the phone for a few days and
when she does, she is busy and pretending that
she doesn't have time to met you. This isn't
necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you
are used to meet her frequently then there is
something wrong.

2. Eventually, when she decided to spend some
time with you she keeps looking around to find
something to do or someone else to talk to.
However, when a woman is interested, she puts in
the effort by giving you her full attention.

3. She's secretive and no longer wants to tell
you where she has been or who was on the phone.

4. Don't forget that women love to talk. If she
doesn't ask you questions and shows no interest
in what you have to say and when you ask her
questions she limits her answers to "yes" and "no"
 she has a problem. Can it be the relationship
with you?

5. Is she causing arguments over stupid little
things? If nothing you do or say isn't right
anymore and all that goes wrong is your fault you
can start to worry.

6. She refuses the presents you make. Women love
to get presents, so if she turns yours down, she
can feel guilty because she is thinking to break
up with you, especially if you know she was about
to buy that thing for herself.

7. She talks about divorce or break up of other
people relationship, as a positive thing. Maybe a
friend of her just has braked up with her
boyfriend and now she is doing much better.

In the game of romance, few things are black and
white. Most of the points above are assumptions
based on commonly used techniques. There is room
for interpretations and misunderstandings but all
this can make you wonder if everything is ok and
discuss the problems you might have.

6 Ways To Get Your Ex-Back In 3 Days

We make relationships to enjoy life. Even it
perhaps a lot of sacrifices to keep a
relationship and to make it work, many of us
prefer to make these sacrifices just to have near
the person we love and like to spend time with.

Sometimes it happens that a relationship ends
even that there is still love between the
partners. This happens when one of the partners
makes some regular mistakes and has a bad
behavior towards the other. But usually the one
who is guilty for ending the relationship are men
who  figures out too late how much it cares about
the other and wants to change only after lose her.

There is nothing worst that being dumped by the
one you love and believed was "the one". Trying
to get a woman back in to your life is difficult.
If you lost your true love because of you and
really want to get her back, don't desperate.
Your situation is not necessarily hopeless.

At some point in life, we all lose something that
we really wish we held on to - in this case, you
lost your love and you need to get your ex back.
Getting back together with your lost love is not
about “getting” them back or even relationship
repair. It's about wining them back. Winning them
back implies a few important things semantically.
It implies effort from your part.

First off all call her and tell her that you
really want to see her. If she wants to take
lunch with you make it so your ex notice that you
are changed, that you thought about why did she
leave you and she had right because there are
many reasons why she left. Apologize sincerely.

If she doesn't want to talk to you by not picking
up the phone when you call her, just surprise her
by waiting in front of the office where she works
and offer to walk her home when her program in
over. But before assure that she is not having a
boyfriend yet, because it might happen that
someone else is waiting for her so your chance is
ruined.

Act like you just starting dating, make her feel
special. Be honest, and tell her that you still
love her. Use the past to your advantage and let
her know that anyone deserves a second chance,
that things will be different now. Do not stalk
her; she might think that you are very desperate.
Just tell her that you are ready to make your
relationship a priority in your life.

If you can get a date with her, be positive,
laugh and smile. Make her feel good. Subtly touch
her when she's talking. You must raise the level
of attraction between the two of you, if she
still loves you; you know that she has a weakness
towards you.

If she didn't fall into your arms after your date
don’t give up. Call her often and just tell her
how you feel. Also you can make something special
for her, like sending flowers and buy her gifts.
Don't forget about anniversary and birthday.

E-mail her and let her know that you are
available any time if she wants to have a date
with you. Also assure her that you don't frequent
another girls and she is the most important for
you.

Be yourself, show her that you don't play games
and your intentions are very serious. Also, don't
be jealous if she had a date with another guy if
she is now ready to get back with you and
renounce to the other guy.

With this ways, a little luck and your personal
charm you can get your girlfriend back faster
than you think.

5 Ways To Keep Romance Alive – On A Budget

Just about everyone agrees that a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant will set the mood for romance, but have you seen the price tag? Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.

While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items.  Try getting matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them.  Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

Surprise your partner by making the ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead.

Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything. The top five most romantic songs. The top five most romantic movies. The top five most romantic books. You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.

 If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!).  You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.

It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie.  Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface.  You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages.  Another version is to make your own cupcakes and frost them with special messages in red icing.  You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie.

These 5 simple ideas are sure to warm up any relationship. Don’t be afraid to try simple tips and changes to “routines” to spice things up without having it cost a fortune!